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Beachlife123
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I am new to this site and am impressed by the wealth of knowledge and support offered. I am a single mom (divorced and work full time) of an eight year old daughter. My daughter went through extensive evaluations by her psychiatrist, child psychologist, educational specialist and occupational therapist about 1.5 ago. At the end of the day she was diagnosed with: NonVerbal Learning Disorder (NVLD), ADHD, Anxiety not otherwise specified, and Sensory Integration Disorder.
My daughter is very complex. Over the past two years we've come a LONG way. My daughter now takes a shower for the most part without freaking out and allows me to brush her hair. She doesn't flip out if the seams on her socks are not perfect. She will wear a variety of clothes. We still have a LONG way to go but I stay positive. I have a great group of doctors, therapist, and a school that supports my daughter 100%. However we have a LONG way to go. As a single mother its not easy - I have pretty much given up a social life and I don't date.
The positive: She is very bright although the end result of the WISC IV landed on the average side of the spectrum. Her doctor said this is an underestimate of her ability due to her emotional issues. Her Achievement Scores (WJ-III) ranged from high average to very superior. She struggles in math but we are very lucky to have a school that supports her 100% and the best part is I have NOT had to even draft an IEP. She is friendly - has a lot of friends and socially gets along well with other children. She has a passion which is a great love for dance and she works very hard at her passion. She is funny and sweet and has a big heart.
Areas of opportunity: She is VERY DIFFICULT at times and always STRONG WILLED. She does not like the word NO and does not like to listen to direction. Let me preface by stating she is a perfect angel at school and at dance. She reserves her defiance for the home. I am thankful for this but man is it draining! She refuses to take her ADD medications as they give her a stomach ache and headache (we are back to the psychiatrist to get this addressed). She is disrespectful to me calls me every bad word under the sun. Her temper tantrums are severe - although better then they were a year ago. At least she hasn't put a hole in the wall. She throws things at me rather violently. I've pretty much tried everything. Her therapist said I MUST get her back on ADD medications before we can even try to make headway. I've TRIED every form of discipline. As of last week I've pretty much taken everything out of her bedroom, tv privileges etc. I've created a behavior chart (about the 20th time) but she is 8 and I fear if I do not get this behavior in check we are going to be in big trouble. I cannot continue to be the punching bag nor can I tolerate the violent behavior. I know after she has these episodes she scares herself. It's almost as if she can't control herself. We did have a brain scan and she does not have seizures. I do give her LOTS and LOTS of love including positive reinforcement, hugs, kisses etc.
Has anyone experienced these issues and if so what has helped? I am at the end of my rope.
Thanks so much
My daughter is very complex. Over the past two years we've come a LONG way. My daughter now takes a shower for the most part without freaking out and allows me to brush her hair. She doesn't flip out if the seams on her socks are not perfect. She will wear a variety of clothes. We still have a LONG way to go but I stay positive. I have a great group of doctors, therapist, and a school that supports my daughter 100%. However we have a LONG way to go. As a single mother its not easy - I have pretty much given up a social life and I don't date.
The positive: She is very bright although the end result of the WISC IV landed on the average side of the spectrum. Her doctor said this is an underestimate of her ability due to her emotional issues. Her Achievement Scores (WJ-III) ranged from high average to very superior. She struggles in math but we are very lucky to have a school that supports her 100% and the best part is I have NOT had to even draft an IEP. She is friendly - has a lot of friends and socially gets along well with other children. She has a passion which is a great love for dance and she works very hard at her passion. She is funny and sweet and has a big heart.
Areas of opportunity: She is VERY DIFFICULT at times and always STRONG WILLED. She does not like the word NO and does not like to listen to direction. Let me preface by stating she is a perfect angel at school and at dance. She reserves her defiance for the home. I am thankful for this but man is it draining! She refuses to take her ADD medications as they give her a stomach ache and headache (we are back to the psychiatrist to get this addressed). She is disrespectful to me calls me every bad word under the sun. Her temper tantrums are severe - although better then they were a year ago. At least she hasn't put a hole in the wall. She throws things at me rather violently. I've pretty much tried everything. Her therapist said I MUST get her back on ADD medications before we can even try to make headway. I've TRIED every form of discipline. As of last week I've pretty much taken everything out of her bedroom, tv privileges etc. I've created a behavior chart (about the 20th time) but she is 8 and I fear if I do not get this behavior in check we are going to be in big trouble. I cannot continue to be the punching bag nor can I tolerate the violent behavior. I know after she has these episodes she scares herself. It's almost as if she can't control herself. We did have a brain scan and she does not have seizures. I do give her LOTS and LOTS of love including positive reinforcement, hugs, kisses etc.
Has anyone experienced these issues and if so what has helped? I am at the end of my rope.
Thanks so much