I'm just so disappointed in husband and my feelings are hurt. My grandparents (age 91!) were the first ones to arrive yesterday, I am trying to finish getting lunch ready and husband basically ignores them (he says hi, sits in the same room and pulls out the paper). So, from 30' away, I'm rushing lunch and trying to hold a conversation with my hearing-impaired grandparents. I even kicked husband's chair to try and get him to be nice. When I said something to him, he denied ignoring them! I know my inlaws must think I am a total shrew as they only see me a couple of times a year and Christmas Eve is the only time they usually see me for any significant length of time. By the time they get here, they are lucky their son's head is still attached. Last year, husband just whined about having to buy me a present. So, fine, I bought my own and gave them to him to wrap. Come Christmas, one is missing, I find it under the couch, still in the shopping bag. So not only could he not be bothered to shop for me, he couldn't even show enough respect to wrap the darn things. This year he asked for a specific list of what to do. I gave him an exact list (1) take the kids shopping, buy XYZ, emphasize the joy of giving (2) wrap gifts (3) get things for my stocking, put in stocking after the kids are in bed on Christmas Eve. THANK GOD that my mom put a couple things in my stocking and I added something because he FORGOT....AGAIN. Next year, he gets coal. With the boys literal thinking (and Tigger still believing). an empty stocking for mom means she's a bad mom. (Tigger made a comment that because I was getting a nicely wrapped present, I must be a good mom.) Christmas should be about joy and giving but husband always, every year, hurts my feelings. And the worst part is that he just doesn't get it.