Hello, today I am hopeful and am trying to move forward and am so grateful for all the support on this forum. I had an incident over the weekend that nearly put me back in the sad category. But due to this forum and good solid comments for me, I was able to limit the suffering to a minimal. The incident involved by 28 year old granddaughter, my difficult daughters oldest child. She is herself difficult and has been all her life as well. So, to make it short, due to the horrible things that happened between the two of them this summer neither are talking. And my granddaughter now does not want to speak to me because she does not even want to hear about her mother. This is her bitter way of asserting control over everyone as she always has. I do not force conversations about her mother, however recently she was planning to take her kids to Missouri from here) Indiana, to spend fall break with grandma (my daughter). For some reason she changed her mind then said she was unsure when she would do that and maybe Christmas but not sure. So, I asked her to let me know so that if she decides to do that she could take her mothers stuff which is in my garage, to her. And I did say I thought it was good to allow the kids to see her because no matter what happened they love her. Well that was all it took. So after thinking it over, I am removing my contact with my granddaughter as well due to the unnecessary drama that she puts into this. Her life needs a lot of work and so until she comes back to earth, I refuse to be in her line of fire. Any thoughts? I have sent the short version of this, there is a lot of unhealthy living going on between both daughter and granddaughter for years, this didn't just happen out of the blue. But what happens to me was I ended up feeling all the old feelings again of rejections, fear for all, sense of loss and being adrift as this has resulted in me having no family contact. My oldest son was killed at age 25, both my daughter and remaining son have drug issues, son is currently in prison, daughter spend summer homeless and has signs of continuing drug use but is working and barely making it.