I know somebody with two sons. One is kind and sweet with a family and great job and several degrees. His brother is currently in jail again and is a diagnosed sociopath who has tried to kill his brother and has not spoken to his family for six years. And although he breaks his parents heart every day, they dont try to see him. They are afraid of him. These, from all appearances, are two kind, caring, loving, happily married 40 years parents. They are well off and both kids had all the chances on earth. The grandparents were slso beloved by family and community and were very involved in helping others. The boys are about three years apart in age and in their thirties now. As we are so hard on ourselves sometimes, i think about this family. And this son. There is no logical explanation for these two extremes if it is all about the parents. Its not in my opinion. Something about this child is different. No, he is not adopted or learning disabled. He got good grades early on then started to skip school and steal and fight and do other things that were so painful I did not hear as they could not talk about his worse. Too painful. I changed unimportant details here, but this is basically the story. How? Why? Why doesnt the psychiatric community let go of blaming the parents? Today, many do agree it isnt always the parents. But too many hang onto Freud, who has been proven wrong. Anyway just thoughts for an early Thursday morning and my ponderings. Thanks for reading, those who did.