I also agree with the others. Time for yourself is just as important, if not more so in certain ways, as the time you spend with difficult child or doing things for difficult child. If you are STRESSED to the max, it makes it that much harder to do what you have to do for difficult children.
Take out your calender and make time for yourself. At times when I can't do this, I either get up earlier than everyone else or go to bed later than everyone else. I find that I need quiet, peaceful alone time in order to deal with all of the STRESS I'm constantly under as I try to handle one crisis after another, etc., with difficult children.
I find that exercise helps me more than anything else. For this reason, if I only have time for one thing, exercise is it. I have equipment in my basement.
I usually exercise after I get the kids up and fed before school. I have husband make sure they get out the door on time. husband drives difficult child 1 to school prior to work. I'm lucky in the sense that I can make my own work hours.
When my kids were younger, I used to use the tv as a "babysitter" when I needed to. I'de pop in a favorite video and talk on the phone while keeping my eye on them. I also used their nap times to unwind. Sometimes I let the house go!!!
Also, I used to put the kids to bed about an hour earlier than they really needed to go to sleep. They used to have "quiet reading time." I was lucky because they got used to this. They never had a choice. It was survival for me!!!
When all else failed, I used to put them all in their carseats, listen to some favorite music, get a cup of coffee at the drive-thru, and take the kids on a "ride to nowhere." This was sometimes (lots of times, the only way I could get any PEACE!!!)
I also make plans ahead of time and have husband watch the kids. Sometimes this ends up backfiring on me because husband has lots less patience than I do!!! This always gets me so :grrr:!!!
Anyway, if nothing else, sometimes just taking a long, hot shower before bed helps... Find some time for yourself :flower:!!! It will make life alot easier for you :bath:... WFEN