I am so frustrated right now with difficult child. She's been out and running around with her friend's all weekend. And she is sick again. She popped home yesterday midday with her two girlfriends and obviously has a cold. She was wearing a big baggy long sleeved t-shirt. It was 30 degrees outside. Not even a sweatshirt - apparently she left that at Monkeyboy's house. She related to me what a jerk her boyfriend is. Apparently he spent almost all of his first paycheck on lots of beer and booze. He was angry at her because she didn't drink any and went to sleep the night before (they were at her girlfriend's house and she didn't feel well). They were arguing about it while driving along and then he just jumped out of her car while it was moving!! <I am so angry at him for this - it must have been quite shocking for difficult child> Anyway, her girlfriend's were with them in the car and he woulnd't get back in, so she came home to see if H would cash her check for her and to scarf down some food. Obviously she was hungry and hadn't eaten much. I told H earlier not to cash her check for her. To make her deposit it into her account instead and wait until it cleared. Well, H cashed it for her. I invited her for dinner and she said she would be home. I made the usual Sunday dinner (I do this even when my kids are not home) and we ate at 7PM - difficult child never showed. Surprise, surprise. Obviously she and Monkeyboy made up because she came home at 11PM with boyfriend in tow (why I still haven't figured out!)...there he was hanging in the hallway as she stood before me shivering with chills, face all puffy and snotty from her cold, wheezing and hacking. She said she was soooo cold & shivering, shaking uncontrollably. I never even said hello to MB, I was in my PAJAMAS for crying out loud!! I was not up for company. I have my own cold! UUUURRRRGGHGGHHH. I asked difficult child "why is he here?" and she said he followed her home to make sure she got home safely - he was afraid she'd have a 'siezure' while driving. She told me that his genius mother told her that she probably has a bad cold but that it will likely turn into bronchitis, as that's going around. Hello? Bronchitis cannot be 'caught' - what a stupid @$$. I advised her to get into a hot shower (she hasn't showered in something like 5 days!) and that would help loosen up the chest so she could cough it up. She refused, put on her jammies, and cranked up the heater on her bed (MB left by this point), and went to bed, but not before telling me loudly "And I'm calling out sick from work in the morning!" Before I had time to bite my tongue I called out to her, "SO, you run around all weekend sick with no coat, not eating right, drinking and smoking ten thousand cigarettes and then call out sick to work on Monday?!?" She said, "Mom, not now!" and went to bed. I just stared at H. Ugh. Later I heard her moaning and checked on her - she was burning up with a fever!!! I lowered temp in her bed, gave her some advil & water. She was supposed to work this entire week, now she obviously can't go in today (and likely not tomorrow)....This morning when I left her she was sleeping and I could hear her wheezing and coughing, she wasn't as hot, but she was obviously ill. She will have to do breathing treatments throughout the day. I set her alarm for 10AM so she could call into work. I know, I know, I shouldn't have, but she can't lose this job and I know she would have slept right through midday and then if she called in too late she could get fired. Why don't they take care of themselves?? How many times will she get sick like this before she learns to eat right, sleep well, and take care of herself? Why doesn't she shower regularly like a normal person, care for her body? How do I get through to her to take care of her health?? It's just so frustrating!