I used to come here often many years ago: now I am parenting adults and AGAIN I have questions. I thought I would start with an update. My oldest with bipolar tends to be 2 steps forward and 1.5 steps back, but she is now 24 and is making a life for herself. She is currently living in Nebraska and got married last June to a fine man. She still fights the mood swings, is on again off again medications as they all have side effects and they only help her a little bit. And, sometimes she works at a job and sometimes she does not. All in all, she is doing pretty good. She also met some of her birth family, did not much care for her birth mother, and had a complicated and rather short friendship with her half sister, who also has bipolar. ............................................................................. My son, who has Aspergers as well as mild bipolar, has finally moved out into section 8 housing and has decided, to his surprise, that he LIKES having his own apartment! He comes over once a week and I pay him to help me with my heavier housekeeping, as I have come down with a chronic illness, and taking laundry up and down the stairs is too hard for me. He also does much of the cleaning. When he is done I pay him for his work and also buy him groceries for the week. I will not always be able to feed him as I am 62 and somewhat ill and he is 23, and so last week after much effort I got the food stamps application mailed in for him: I find official language fiendishly difficult. speaking of official language, I am going to start another thread for advice on getting him signed up for SSI. It took me many months to work through the food stamps application and even then I ended up leaning on my husband to help me with the last bit, as every time I made some progress on it I had to set it down to help stamp out fires, and when I got back to it I had forgotten EVERYTHING I had figured out and I had to start over. I have Multiple Sclerosis and it DOES affect my memory! At any rate, that is how things are now, and I will start another thread asking about SSI for my son. He still thinks he is going to work at a regular part time job, but I am starting to have my doubts as he has tried a couple and they have not worked out very well. He is a slow, methodical worker (with emphasis on the slow) and he tends to be emotional about everything as well. Stress is not his friend.