difficult child was fairly excited tonight to watch a Charlie Brown Christmas with me tonight. But she could not sit still during the show. She decided to eat again because that is what she does at times when restless. She had dinner and cookies afterward and decided another meal was in order at 8:30pm. Oops, my bad! I said the no word and boy she was off to the races. She got mouthy and mean. We had a discussion Saturday night about when her temper flares, mom or difficult child will leave the room so it doesn't escalate to where she decides she is going to hit or throw something at me. I digress. So I asked her to leave and she begins to taunt me with the kitchen timer, right behind me making it ding as I retreat. (That bell went off about 20 times in a row) I ask to her go upstairs and leave me alone so we can cool off. Whenever I ask her to retreat or I walk away from the situation it seems to make her madder. I sat down in my chair and she is yelling at me, telling me she hates me and go ahead send me to jail and she picks up her boot and whacks me on my heel. It hurt. I got tears in my eyes and she is immediately horrified. Runs to the fridge to get an icepack. I listened to 100 I"m sorry's. We talked about the need for one of us to retreat when she feels her anger coming on. She is very concerned about me, says she is a bad kid and doesn't deserve parents like us. She says she doesn't know why she does things like this. I wish I did! She says maybe we should go to the guidance counselor at school for help. (We aren't seeing a therapist at the moment, but have alot over the last 3-4 years) Ok, so I know she feels terrible about it and deep down doesn't want this to happen. But the impulse control for her is a different story. So I come to all the wise warrior mothers for help. How can I teach her some control over her anger so we don't get to the point of difficult child wanting to beat me or throw something at me? She is 11, but I swear her emotional IQ is at least 3 years behind. Am I expecting too much out of her? I am concerned by the time she is 13, 14 or 15 and is bigger than me, (I'm 5"2) I could get hurt and the police will be involved. I want to nip this in the bud now. I know you guys can help me out. Thanks if you have made it this far. Thank goodness I had the sense to tape Charlie Brown Christmas. I love watching it and remember when I used to watch it as a kid with my Grandma. Warm memories.