There is no way to really feel safe unless you go all the way if the person or people you had to cut off are hurtful to you. I have tried different ways and only one way lets a person heal. These suggestions are Jmo. Block phone number Block Facebook and all other social media from the people who hurt you If they have blogs or vlogs etc. block those so you dont feel tempted to read them. I am sure its possible. Fortunately mine dont do this. Block the websites they use, if any. Block their Pintarest account. Tweet. Anything. Dont give them a voice about you, at least not to you. What others think of me is none of my business. If you get a snail mail letter from someone ready to bash/insult you, dont open it and throw it away. I did not read a snail mail Nasty that my brother sent me. I am forever grateful that my husband tore it up for me and threw it in the trash. Now I dont know what he said and am glad. I did not need to know. Again I repeat.... What other people think of us is none of our business. Its their biased, angry opinion, not fact. Thats about it. No contact. I hurt myself over and over again by not doing this earlier, like in my 40s or 30s. Cutting off anyone related by DNA to my mother, including my mother. Trying to be loving and fix it will NOT work with people who have decided you are a bad person. Not even if you are feeling so inferior that you take all the blame, like I did with my mother. I would have done anything to be loved by her and my sick family, but I was the designated patient and love and acceptance was never going to happen. Dont demean yourself like I did. I am better off that they never accepted me. I am grateful I can vent here. The forums about "narcicistic" people and dysfunctional families, which the poster is always a victim of, all strike me as dysfunctional people diagnosing and whining about lovers or family they dont like and to me half of the.posters sound worse than the stories they write about. This is in my opinion a more stable place to vent. Sometimes very few people even read my vents and that is okay. I feel very safe here though. Thank you.