I've shared the story before of difficult child telling me, after I exhausted all known remedies for knee pain (or was it ankle?), that if I really cared I would think of something. This is just more of the same. Last night, difficult child was upstairs and I heard her come out of her room, heard an exclamation of pain, then she started crying. I asked her what happened; what's wrong. No answer, just crying. I asked again about 10 times. She never answered me. This is typical difficult child behavior. She's 12 years old. If she's seriously hurt 1)usually you can tell by the sound of it and 2) she would call me. So, I didn't go running after her to see what happened. A few minutes later, she stomps downstairs cradling her hand and shooting daggers at me. I ask her again what happened. She snarls at me, "Why do you care? All you ever do is say you're sorry, anyway.", and heads back upstairs. STOMP, STOMP, STOMP...but no slam. Guess the kid doesn't want to lose her bedroom door afterall. Another few minutes later, she heads back downstairs and it's more of the same. I don't care, I only just say 'I'm sorry', blah, blah, blah. She closed her finger in the door so I got her an ice pack. She then proceeds to continue on with her accusations. I asked her, "What do you want me to do or say then? I need you to tell me what you need." She tells me that she wants me to offer suggestions on how to make things better. I let her continue for a few minutes then tell her, "I offer suggestions. You don't like any of them. Then you become angry with me and yell, 'I've told you a dozen times that those don't work for me. WHY DON'T YOU EVER LISTEN TO ME?!!' So, I've stopped making those suggestions and I tell you that I'm sorry you're hurt or feeling bad or whatever is going on at the time. I can't fix it." Her response? "You could try." Me: "What do you want from me, Wynter? I can't take the pain away or the nausea or the not being able to sleep. I can only offer suggestions on what to do for it." Wynter: "They don't work." Me: "Then I don't know what else to offer. Even the doctor told you to do the same things I've been telling you over and over and over and you still want something else. You insist that nothing works for you. I tell you I'm sorry you're hurting or feeling bad or whatever, and I am. But I can't take it away. I just don't have that power." By the way, the ice pack didn't work. I told her I was sorry.