You always feel bad after. He just keeps pushing and pushing and pushing the limits. After the incident he was involved in over the weekend at the neigbhors house, I finally spoke to neighbor myself. She, ofcourse gave me a different view. Didn't mention that at first to difficult child. But he is 12...and I am on the phone with a close friend whose 17 yr old son was just diagnosed with Hotchins lymphoma (sp?). difficult child is constantly bugging me. mom, mom, mom, mom. Make my sandwich NOW...do this, do that. I LOST it. Had to hang up with friend. And just laid into difficult child. Then..I was on a roll, so I just kept on going. HE threw the toy into the neighbors pool. Why? I don't know. husband's birthday is Thursday, 26th... Told difficult child I wanted to go to the mall. (normally difficult child LOVES the mall) Oh, but this day he wants to hang out with a friend. I feel bad having to work, so I look forward to my days off. I don't know why. Everytime I have a day off difficult child makes plans to do something with anyone BUT me. He'll ask for a ride to the mall with his friends, but if I ask him to go...No. He said this "friend" sleeps until 3pm, then he was coming over. I told him NO. difficult child had his playoff baseball game and had to be there at 6. Told him to call this kid and ask if he wants to go to the mall. So he does. Kid was sleeping but answered the phone. Said, OK and hung up. Never answered the phone again. I told difficult child that his friends are jerks and treat him bad. difficult child lets his friends walk all over him. He would of sat there waiting for this boy to call him all day, and I know the kid never would. I told difficult child he WAS going to go to the mall and he WAS going to get his father a birthday gift. difficult child is all about himself. Always about him. I understand he has very few friends, so the opportunity for him to do something with someone is rare. But he lets kids talk bad to him, push him around, lie to him. I tried to tell him how bad he looks when he lies. Now he lied about the situation over the weekend, so how are we suppose to believe him anymore. He has lied so many times I can't even keep track about things that happen at school. Tells me one thing, so I fight for him only to find out he didn't tell me the truth. He has made a fool out of me so many times. Told difficult child that dad's b-day is ONE day, and he better plan on being home that day. I KNOW if someone called he would go with that person rather than spend the ONE day with his father. (done it before) He denied he would do that. I just went on about everything. I was so very, very angry. So, we talk things out when I calmed down, and things were ok. Today, my doggie had to stay in the hospital. difficult child went to a friends house. I finally take my nap about 6pm so I can work tonight. Guess what. difficult child calls and I hear husband say, "not tonight we need you here for Chloe in the morning". Then he hangs up. I was steaming mad. Tomorrow is husband's B-day, easy child is coming home, and after our big blow-up where I addressed this issue, difficult child has enough guts to ask to spend the night at someones house! (where he admits they don't go to bed at this kids house). So, I get up and husband tells me that this boy is going to stay at OUR house. I just glared at husband and said difficult child is in BIG trouble. So, husband calls him back and said I said friend could not stay. difficult child comes home, and I just LOOKED at him and said tomorrow is dad's b-day. You chose to be with someone else. Just as I predicted. We DISCUSSED this very issue. I was SO mad. Then go to wrap the gift. No tape. difficult child plays with tape. I have warned him, he is NOT allowed to TOUCH tape. Heck I think I wrapped some xmas gifts with glue. I bough a 4 pack and told him he is not to touch it. Ok - gone. I swear we can't have anything in our house without difficult child losing it. Just not a happy camper today.