TerryJ2
Well-Known Member
A few people (MM comes to mind) asked me if difficult child felt the appropriate remorse or the gravity of the situation with-the police being called.
I thought, how do I figure it out? And then I came up with-the idea just to ask him like a survey.
So we went out on the front steps. I said, "On a scale of 1-10, with-1 being the lowest and 10 being the highest and most important, where would you rate the police stopping by today?"
"10."
Whew. You don't know how relieved I was to hear that!
I asked him why he told the police the truth about the panties and not me or the dr. He said it was because police sort of expect different answers and know different things.
(Ahhh!)
I asked him how I would know whether he would do this in someone else's house and what he did to plan it. He said he didn't think at all. He said he watches COPS and he thinks those people (criminals) are stupid and he would never do anything like that, and then he went ahead and did it.
So we talked about how if you want to go on a diet, you have to think ahead. You buy only healthy fruits and vegetables at the grocery store, and then you don't have junk around the house, so if you don't "think," you won't accidentally grab something and eat it because it simply won't be there. So I told him, "What would you think about so you wouldn't think about taking something from somebody else's house? Like, how to prepare yourself? Lots of people have electronic equipment, Ipods, ladies things, so what do you do?"
He started to get angry and loud and said, "It wouldn't matter because I'd always be with someone! I'd always be with a friend! I won't go alone into other people's houses!"
Well, we made some progress anyway ...
He got one concept but is still missing the rest.
I changed tactics a bit, and asked him if he thought his behavior was normal and he said no. I asked him if he understood why we've been having so many tests done. He said yes. I then told him we'd have to have more tests done because I wanted to speed up the process of figuring it out and having him work on his issues.
He aked if it meant tests with-his psychiatric dr or blood tests, and I said more like psychiatric tests. He rolled his eyes but said he understood.
I thought, how do I figure it out? And then I came up with-the idea just to ask him like a survey.
So we went out on the front steps. I said, "On a scale of 1-10, with-1 being the lowest and 10 being the highest and most important, where would you rate the police stopping by today?"
"10."
Whew. You don't know how relieved I was to hear that!
I asked him why he told the police the truth about the panties and not me or the dr. He said it was because police sort of expect different answers and know different things.
(Ahhh!)
I asked him how I would know whether he would do this in someone else's house and what he did to plan it. He said he didn't think at all. He said he watches COPS and he thinks those people (criminals) are stupid and he would never do anything like that, and then he went ahead and did it.
So we talked about how if you want to go on a diet, you have to think ahead. You buy only healthy fruits and vegetables at the grocery store, and then you don't have junk around the house, so if you don't "think," you won't accidentally grab something and eat it because it simply won't be there. So I told him, "What would you think about so you wouldn't think about taking something from somebody else's house? Like, how to prepare yourself? Lots of people have electronic equipment, Ipods, ladies things, so what do you do?"
He started to get angry and loud and said, "It wouldn't matter because I'd always be with someone! I'd always be with a friend! I won't go alone into other people's houses!"
Well, we made some progress anyway ...
He got one concept but is still missing the rest.
I changed tactics a bit, and asked him if he thought his behavior was normal and he said no. I asked him if he understood why we've been having so many tests done. He said yes. I then told him we'd have to have more tests done because I wanted to speed up the process of figuring it out and having him work on his issues.
He aked if it meant tests with-his psychiatric dr or blood tests, and I said more like psychiatric tests. He rolled his eyes but said he understood.
