I am quite new to this board but am thankful there is an outlet. My son is 13, almost 14 and I fully suspect he is ODD (though not professionally diagnosed, he has ALL the symptoms to a "T".) He is exhibiting so many characteristics that I can completely remember feeling in those teen years. While growing up, I didn't have a very good relationship with my own mom, but I usually blamed that on the fact that my parents were divorcing and basically ignored me and my brother. Now I'm beginning to think that it was my own ODD all along Currently, husband and I have been happily married for 21 years, and we have the difficult child (14) and another son, almost 7. All seems well and fine on the outside. Despite our 'normalness' difficult child is acting how I used to act - disrepectful and rude to my own parents. Is this something you can recognize in yourself?? My saving grace is that I think I turned out quite alright so I feel that this may be the same outcome for difficult child. Thanks for listening!