Or document the episode last night. file a report with police. Did any neighbors hear him? Take the bank statements showing money in your accounts, or the
exclusion of your use of these, the credit cards ect. You are married and doing things jointly, you are making deposits? that way you can show that you were being 'controled'. I assume you were working, but even if not, as a member of the couple you are intittled to leave, and his choice to make you destitude to do so is controlling.
Armed with the police report, you can get into a domestic violence shelter. there you can have safe and secure housing and emotional support while you reconfigure your life.
friends are great, too. but having a start where you have time on your own where wither you discuss, or do not, what has happened can return to your control.
Also, if you are in a domestic violence shelter it is a safe house. He will not know where you are and although you can not control him contacting people he knows you know looking for you, you can control that they and he can not snag your time and attention with whatever he does next.
In the shelters they have classes and you may learn things that you may have thought you knew, but will see differant now just because you are perhaps for the first time really free of the unremitting obligations that seemed so important to keep you a reciepiant of another persons criticisms and put downs and belittleling and reactive emotions.
You can go to sleep at a reasonable hour, and if you can not sleep because the issues are plaguing your thoughts, you can talk to someone who is there and there just for exactly this purpose.
And you can look for a job, a place to live, and if you need clothing and stuff often these are available as well.
After all you have been through and your devotion to your husband, it is ok to take as much time as you need and want to decide what is right for YOU.
Verbally abused that prevents you from sleeping and controled to place you in a destitute condition are a form of violence.
Withholding is another form of abuse. Leave a note or mail one from the town you are leaving. and maybe going directly where he anticipates you to be is not the best choice. this way he can not pretend you vanished for no reason. Let the police know that and why you are leaving him at this time.
When have you been free befor? Protect that now and whatever happens in relationship with the h you are not going to wonder if you 'let him' influence you when you had not really taken the time to get over the shocks, find your equilibrium, and having stood on your own again(or for the first time) chosen based on what is your true desire, not some tired old habit, not some feeling of obligation that is junk, not anything at all but wither he is worthy of your time, your energy, your future in his hands again.