Cgfg joined a shotgun shooting team through school. They practice once a week and have shoots maybe once a month. She needs 2 boxes of shells for each. Cost - $10. *** Apparently, her mom is refusing to buy her ANY. I am certain she is expecting me to pick up the slack, and I don't want cgfg to miss out, but I also know if I start this, it will never stop. I do her mounted shooting stuff cause that's stuff that's on our time. Trap is rarely on our time. *** Her mom and step dad have - in the past 12 months - painted and carpeted the house, bought new appliances, bought a new truck (their other vehicle is less than 2 years old), bought 2 pygmy goats, built a chicken coop, bought 30 chickens, 10 ducks, I don't know how many guineas, bought 2 registered boxer puppies for breeding (I know who they bought them from - they have $1000 in dogs), bought cgfg a switchblade (among other things), bought the new xbox or playstation - whichever came out last, I don't recall, both got smart phones....I could go on. The point is, they aren't broke. *** My husband is a schmuck, and I'm attempting to deal with that situation, too. Not sure how long he'll be hanging around...but I won't just dump cgfg on her butt...I also can't afford to take on her every whim while mom pays not a dang thing so she'll have more play money. *** I have a notion to call mom's mom. The grandma that funds so much of this koi. I have a notion to tell cgfg tough, I can't afford anything else for her. I have a notion to get a mediator involved and pay this extra stuff in exchange for more time with cgfg and less child support - she can help me around the house and earn some of the money for her activities, and I'll get help I desperately need. And I have a notion to just show up on mom's doorstep tonight and discuss it unannounced and unplanned and ask for all of the above, since she can't seem to afford her kid, even with more child support than she's supposed to be getting.... *** Any bits of wisdom?