onmyknees
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Just found this site. I'm very encouraged reading your posts, not so much that their is a "solution" to this problem, but that their are others who might understand.
My husband and I have 3 kiddos, oldest is 16 daughter and is an absolute mystery to me and husband. I can't even begin to tell you all what we've been through in the last 3 or 4 yrs. She was a very quiet sweet obedient child until about age 12. Lots of sneaking, lying, etc. She was diagnosis as add (inattentive) and odd at age 14. She's compliant with- teachers/other adults and most peers. I don't really get that with her diagnosis??? Anyway, we are in the trenches here and unable to discipline her. I'm really not making excuses, it's impossible!! It has gotten to the point of us calling in the police when we tell her no. That would happen every day if we didn't give in. She's been in short term inpatient and is in counseling and on add medication concerta, antidepressant, and birth control (Never Ever thought I would go there...but dr. recommended it to help with- pms mood swings). She has lost everything we've tried to give her because she simply can't handle anything. Internet access was a nightmare (bad pictures, language etc...), car gone...skipping school, basically she has a bed and food and clothes. It's beginning to ruin our family. We have a great 13 y.o. son that obeys very well, but is starting to ask why he can't do such and such, since daughter can. I refuse to argue with her with the other kids around and it's come to that if we try to discipline her. I refuse to make our home a warzone. Bless you if you've read this far! I'm just looking for someone who's in my shoes and need to talk. I've always lead a good life, I think I've been a good mom, I don't understand how this came to be.
Thanks
My husband and I have 3 kiddos, oldest is 16 daughter and is an absolute mystery to me and husband. I can't even begin to tell you all what we've been through in the last 3 or 4 yrs. She was a very quiet sweet obedient child until about age 12. Lots of sneaking, lying, etc. She was diagnosis as add (inattentive) and odd at age 14. She's compliant with- teachers/other adults and most peers. I don't really get that with her diagnosis??? Anyway, we are in the trenches here and unable to discipline her. I'm really not making excuses, it's impossible!! It has gotten to the point of us calling in the police when we tell her no. That would happen every day if we didn't give in. She's been in short term inpatient and is in counseling and on add medication concerta, antidepressant, and birth control (Never Ever thought I would go there...but dr. recommended it to help with- pms mood swings). She has lost everything we've tried to give her because she simply can't handle anything. Internet access was a nightmare (bad pictures, language etc...), car gone...skipping school, basically she has a bed and food and clothes. It's beginning to ruin our family. We have a great 13 y.o. son that obeys very well, but is starting to ask why he can't do such and such, since daughter can. I refuse to argue with her with the other kids around and it's come to that if we try to discipline her. I refuse to make our home a warzone. Bless you if you've read this far! I'm just looking for someone who's in my shoes and need to talk. I've always lead a good life, I think I've been a good mom, I don't understand how this came to be.
Thanks