I just found this group after finally receiving a tentitive diagnosis of ODD for my 4yr old son. Here is our background story which started abt. 2 1/2 yrs ago... When Cole turned 18mo old we thought he had entered the "terrible twos" just a little early. I attributed his behavior to "just being a toddler" and was hurt that he kept getting "kicked out" of daycare after daycare. He first started with biting, hitting kicking and tantrums. Then at around 2 1/2 he added swearing to the list, which he used frequently to "shock" his teachers. I am not sure when his actual "rages" as I call them started but it was also somewhere in here, where he would go into a rage and try to destroy anyone or anything in his way. Now he did have days, weeks, or months sometimes without displaying this really shocking behavior, but it would always resurface. I finally found a babysitter willing to watch him and he did fairly well at first, which seems to be his pattern. He has now been there a year and this week has started daily the hitting, kicking, pinching, pulling hair and just out of control behavior. It has never went away, but I thought maybe we were seeing some progress since he had stopped swearing and was somewhat controllable by me. It took me five times last friday to get him in the car, and then I constantly worried all the way home as he was taking his seatbelt off, and pulling my hair from the backseat. I worry abt. him hurting himself, his brother, or his baby sister. I wonder what I will do if his babysitter just gives up, because financially I can't stay home. I found this website and was so glad to finally see there are parents out there that just might understand where I am coming from!!!! Last year his pedi told me to wait, and that he might just grow out of it. Well that hasn't happened so now I finally have his appointment. and see some light that we are getting some help!