Greetings! I have lurked on this forum for several months now. After yet another trying day today, I decided to register and post. My difficult child is 9 and has always been a difficult child - rarely slept, cried consistently, didn't show much affection. The toddler years were filled with constant rages and meltdowns lasting 2-3 hours. difficult child went in streaks where he would be raging for several days at a time and then settle down. Whenever I thought I should seek professional help, he would stop and be a loveable, sweet, compassionate, creative child. I always thought he must just be going through a difficult development stage. He was assessed at age 3 by the Early Childhood Diagnostic team due to his agression toward other kids in preschool. The team was stumped and could not come up with a diagnosis. He is now going through a very difficult time the past few months. He is gifted cognitively; however, he struggles with the social, emotional aspects. We are currently seeing a Psychologist who sees Aspergers and attachment issues (due to a recent divorce). I am frustrated though as the psychiatric does not want to make an official diagnosis. He says he is not about the labels, he wants to focus on trying to change difficult child's behavior. difficult child seems to be okay during school but then loses it in after school care. More than likely he will be expelled from his current program due to his defiance and aggression. Today he got so angry that he hit a child with a toy, tipped over a desk, threw books and papers, and spewed hateful things at the principal. He has been suspended several times for his aggressive behavior toward other kids. He doesn't have many friends and does not seem to relate well to other kids. It is concerning that he doesn't really show interest in trying to make any friends. Ugh! I have seen the suggestions for a neuro psychiatric evaluation and I'll look into that. In the meantime, how do you handle a child who seems to be in crisis in yet can't be seen by a professional (current psychiatric or neuro psychiatric) for several weeks or months? Thanks for letting me vent. After wiping away my tears, it is nice to find a place with other parents who understand.