I was happily married until difficult child was born. husband is not easy child's bio father but has been the only father in easy child's life. easy child's bio dad never saw him had not interest to, but refused to sign rights away so husband could adopt him. Because..."if he ever wanted to find me when he grew up he wouldn't be able to" ???? huh?? He knows his name and where he lives??? Anyway. All the good things we had disappeared when difficult child was born. That is his only focus for 12 years. We have never, ever gone away together alone without difficult child since he was born. husband continually believes difficult child over me. difficult child does not talk to husband the way he talks to me. This past week was a perfect example. Since I deal with school, I get the phone calls, I do the psychiatrist, therapist and pediatrician doctor appointment.'s I get all the info. I do the IEP, and all other school meetings, yet husband believes difficult child, difficult child will say I am lying. So...after this past horrible difficult child week, I gave husband a choice last night. His marriage or difficult child's lies. We haven't spoken since. difficult child lies so much that I believe he believes his own lies. And I am caught in the middle as the bad guy. What would happen if I left???, we would lose our house, husband could never afford to live on his own. difficult child would be forced to choose. And, what would happen to difficult child if he wanted to be with husband? easy child makes more money than husband. I am stuck, regardless of his answer, I really do not have a choice. I didn't let husband know that, just gave him the choice last night. So..after the difficult child week, lies, not doing school work..difficult child took him to the batting cages to play ball, buy a new baseball bat and get new shoes. Hey...it was MY birthday two weeks ago, I got a card. My joints hurt so bad, sometimes I have to take one arm and move the other, yet if husband comes home and I am laying on couch I get yelled at. I worked 3rd shift for two years, then I worked second shift for two years, now I work Midnight to noon three days a week. It isn't easy to work when everyone else is sleeping, and then be expected to stay awake and do all the other things husband and difficult child expect. Hard enough just to stay awake and deal with school. All husband has to do is go to work and pick up difficult child after school. Expects groceries, bills paid, school and doctor appointment's taken care of. It is just overwhelming. I use to work out...when can I do that?? Now there are soccer games every saturday and sunday, baseball games three nights a week(there goes my sleep) Happily married??hah. I would be much happier taking care of myself.