you know what. I'm happy for the very good day the other day. difficult child came over late today. I had purchased two dresses for her in the wedding colors. I was even willing to modify one at the tailor in a way that she wanted to "cutomize" it a bit. She was to pick the one she preferred and if she wanted, we woud take it to the tailor for any alterations...even major customzed ones. However, she went "ballistic" about it all. She was totally unreasonable. She wanted a completely custom dress from the beginning and husband said no due to expenses. As it turned out, I got her nice dresses anyway...only a little cheaper. We also bought her many other nice things to wear...plus the shoes she wanted and matching purse. She picked most of these things herself from a catalog. I bought her some make up and some nice little things to go in her purse. Had hair, nail, etc. apts. lined up. difficult child was totally unappreciative and worse. She was hysterical and made no sense about things. When I called her on some of that...the few moments I could get through to her...she said she was not to blame for any of it since she forgot to take her medications last night. She wont acknowledge, that this a choice. For the most part, husband and I have decided to nix her invite. We have calls in to professionals to double check our decsion. difficult child stormed out of my home in a very ugly manner, saying some very weird things. One thing she said was that she didn't want to go to the wedding 'cause I didn't buy her a nice dress...she said she wanted a "halter" top and that I had promised this I never promised this and difficult child is very very large on top...makes no sense. by the way, she did not want to go shopping with us and the dresses we got all make much sense...style, color, pattern, etc. (too long of a story to go into here...and I'm willing to modify one to her liking). However, she is not being reasonable in the least. It is mental llness combned with enitlement, combined with low self esteem. It is an ugly, no win scenario and I really dont think think it is fair to easy child. I also am not entirely convinced that difficult child herself is up to it all. I feel wasted once again.