rejectedmom
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After my father in law died I decided to take a month off. Since the weather was still nice into October I stayed at the beach. That was good and I managed to do some healing from the 40 day vigil I sat at my father in law's bedside. But peace never stays long in my life it seems. When I got home My house was a filthy mess from easy child/difficult child living here alone. The reason it was such a wreck? easy child/difficult child had gone off his medications. It was about three weeks and the edgie behavior, extreme disorganization, and paranoia was beginning to seep back. It took me about 3 days to get to the bottom of it but he finally admitted it. I read him the riot act and thankfully he went back on his respiradol and is now doing better.
Right after that hurricane Sandy hit. Our beach community took and almost direct hit. It was 3 days before we were allowed in to our community to assess the damage. Much devastation all around us but we were miraculously spared. We stayed down for a couple of days and helped some of our neighbors with their clean up then closed down our home and returned to our main residence feeling relieved that we could breathe again.
Unfortunately that sence of relief was short lived. difficult child#2 who had been paroled, got into a domestic altercation with his new girlfriend while they both were drunk. He busted up her place and eventhough he did not hit her that stat has laws that say if the person thought they were in danger it is an assault. He is charged with second degree assault and destruction of property along with a poarole violation. We had no idea any of this had happened. For three weeks he was back here in our state and county. He had told us his PO gave him permission to be here. He went to AA meetings, worked odd jobs, etc. Then we got a call that he was in jail again. The whole time he was around here, he was on the lam. He was hiding out and lieing to us while a warrant was out for him from the other state.
He is looking at an additional 4-8 years tacked onto his previous 7 year sentance. He will be almost 40 when he gets out unless he gets some good time. He is headed for the state penitentuary. husband says the visitor screening there is very intrusive. I am not sure I can handle it with my lingering PSTD symptoms. husband believes this is true also. So, there is once again an empty chair at my holiday table and will be for many holidays to come. I likely will go see my son and be traumatized by it. I dread it. I feel... flat. -RM
Right after that hurricane Sandy hit. Our beach community took and almost direct hit. It was 3 days before we were allowed in to our community to assess the damage. Much devastation all around us but we were miraculously spared. We stayed down for a couple of days and helped some of our neighbors with their clean up then closed down our home and returned to our main residence feeling relieved that we could breathe again.
Unfortunately that sence of relief was short lived. difficult child#2 who had been paroled, got into a domestic altercation with his new girlfriend while they both were drunk. He busted up her place and eventhough he did not hit her that stat has laws that say if the person thought they were in danger it is an assault. He is charged with second degree assault and destruction of property along with a poarole violation. We had no idea any of this had happened. For three weeks he was back here in our state and county. He had told us his PO gave him permission to be here. He went to AA meetings, worked odd jobs, etc. Then we got a call that he was in jail again. The whole time he was around here, he was on the lam. He was hiding out and lieing to us while a warrant was out for him from the other state.
He is looking at an additional 4-8 years tacked onto his previous 7 year sentance. He will be almost 40 when he gets out unless he gets some good time. He is headed for the state penitentuary. husband says the visitor screening there is very intrusive. I am not sure I can handle it with my lingering PSTD symptoms. husband believes this is true also. So, there is once again an empty chair at my holiday table and will be for many holidays to come. I likely will go see my son and be traumatized by it. I dread it. I feel... flat. -RM
