I haven't posted in a while so I thought I would give an update... difficult child 2 has been doing great in the 3 weeks she has been home from the psychiatric hospital, or atleast its wonderful for her. We have had only 2 minor meltdowns that lasted less than 5 min, and best of all she didn't hit a single person. She is doing all of her homeschool work with no backtalk and doing all of her chores (even extra ones for brownie points) with no complaints. At equine therapy is good and she is calming herself quickly, it is soo nice to have my V back. difficult child 1 is still awaiting court, They still will not let him come home. I was told that because of his charges he will have to stay where he is until sentencing. here is my new issue easy child ... she is now refusing to do chores.. yells and screams when you try to tell her something.. does things and blames them on difficult child 2.. and is doing everything difficult child 2 used to do .. im not sure if she is just doing these things because difficult child 1 and difficult child 2 did them or if something else is going on. she doesn't care about the reward system, refuses to sit in timeout, she is getting soo disrespectful ... I think she is just using what she saw working for the others to try to get her way .. anyone know how i can tell if this is learned or if she may have her own issues.