the other shoe drops. Honestly both kids have been making huge strides but I guess summer break is just too much togetherness.
difficult child has been getting extremely agitated lately (at times) mostly with me but also with others. He also has been seeing a new therapist and doesn't like him because therapist is really wanting difficult child to deal with some issues about being stuck on things so difficult child was being rude at the appointment as well.
Today easy child/difficult child was planning on watering the tomato plants and was asking if we had any miracle grow. difficult child told her we did and easy child/difficult child asked him to get it. When he did get it all of a sudden he wanted to water them but easy child/difficult child was already in the mindset so I said she could (either way I lose).
easy child/difficult child wanted to stir the water with the miracle grow so husband told her about a stick she could use. Of course, in the meantime difficult child is getting angrier and angrier (basically he is stuck). He grabs his pocket knife (which I don't like him having-another long story but suffice it to say it won't be available to him anymore) and starts whittling on "the stick". easy child/difficult child blows because she apparently isn't done using it (wanted to use it for the next plant as well). She way overreacts which, of course, causes him to overreact (believe me both kids were in the wrong).
Next thing I know difficult child is posturing at easy child/difficult child with the knife in a threatening way. We told difficult child to take a break-go to his room or the basement, or a walk to cool down. He screams at me to shut up. I'm about done with him telling me to shut up this summer so I decided to take a break and let husband deal with it.
difficult child ended up threatening easy child/difficult child with the knife said he was going to stab her. At one point he told husband he was going to slit his own wrist. difficult child also did a whole lot of swearing and name calling and easy child/difficult child wasn't helping. She finally has cooled down but difficult child is having a hard time letting it go. I believe this has been going on for almost an hour now. difficult child is now using the computer so hopefully he will calm down.
All I can say is ugh! I'm not willing to go through a violent cycle with difficult child again. husband told him we will call the police. difficult child says he should live in an orphanage-until husband pointed out that it was fine with us and told him what it would be like.
I really want to have a peaceful summer. easy child/difficult child isn't working many hours yet because of her new job. difficult child isn't working many hours at all and has aged out of camps around here. Wish they had an adult one for me to run off to. Plus it doesn't help that I am still unable to drive due to my shoulder surgery so I can't even take difficult child out for awhile.
As if all this isn't enough, my sister called to let me know that Mom's social worker called today because she is concerned in the decline in Mom's cognitive ability. The possibility of mom maybe having Altheimers has been brought up but with mom's mental health history it is hard to tell. Anyways lots more going on with that but I don't want this post to go on any longer (sorry it is so long already).
And the day started off so peaceful...
difficult child has been getting extremely agitated lately (at times) mostly with me but also with others. He also has been seeing a new therapist and doesn't like him because therapist is really wanting difficult child to deal with some issues about being stuck on things so difficult child was being rude at the appointment as well.
Today easy child/difficult child was planning on watering the tomato plants and was asking if we had any miracle grow. difficult child told her we did and easy child/difficult child asked him to get it. When he did get it all of a sudden he wanted to water them but easy child/difficult child was already in the mindset so I said she could (either way I lose).
easy child/difficult child wanted to stir the water with the miracle grow so husband told her about a stick she could use. Of course, in the meantime difficult child is getting angrier and angrier (basically he is stuck). He grabs his pocket knife (which I don't like him having-another long story but suffice it to say it won't be available to him anymore) and starts whittling on "the stick". easy child/difficult child blows because she apparently isn't done using it (wanted to use it for the next plant as well). She way overreacts which, of course, causes him to overreact (believe me both kids were in the wrong).
Next thing I know difficult child is posturing at easy child/difficult child with the knife in a threatening way. We told difficult child to take a break-go to his room or the basement, or a walk to cool down. He screams at me to shut up. I'm about done with him telling me to shut up this summer so I decided to take a break and let husband deal with it.
difficult child ended up threatening easy child/difficult child with the knife said he was going to stab her. At one point he told husband he was going to slit his own wrist. difficult child also did a whole lot of swearing and name calling and easy child/difficult child wasn't helping. She finally has cooled down but difficult child is having a hard time letting it go. I believe this has been going on for almost an hour now. difficult child is now using the computer so hopefully he will calm down.
All I can say is ugh! I'm not willing to go through a violent cycle with difficult child again. husband told him we will call the police. difficult child says he should live in an orphanage-until husband pointed out that it was fine with us and told him what it would be like.
I really want to have a peaceful summer. easy child/difficult child isn't working many hours yet because of her new job. difficult child isn't working many hours at all and has aged out of camps around here. Wish they had an adult one for me to run off to. Plus it doesn't help that I am still unable to drive due to my shoulder surgery so I can't even take difficult child out for awhile.
As if all this isn't enough, my sister called to let me know that Mom's social worker called today because she is concerned in the decline in Mom's cognitive ability. The possibility of mom maybe having Altheimers has been brought up but with mom's mental health history it is hard to tell. Anyways lots more going on with that but I don't want this post to go on any longer (sorry it is so long already).
And the day started off so peaceful...
