Here I thought I had detachment down cold. HAH! 2x4 descended on my head as I crawled along the Dan Ryan parking lot (aka highway) this morning.... easy to be "detached" when there are no dire consequences awaiting difficult child if he makes a boneheaded move. Not so easy when he loses some protection by moving to a lesser restrictive environment where he will have more freedom to make boneheaded choices. Pass the Ativan (or scotch). This program is a go. Very small self contained school. Kids of all ranges, from one kid returning home to attend 4-year college to kids who will transition into adult group homes and adult day programs. Very individualized. It will be what thank you makes of it (please, God, help me to impress this vital fact upon my son). Group home was *spotless*. "Members" do the cooking, cleaning, everything, with assistance when needed. To my eyes, *excellent* transition program. Level system, free time is earned, a ton of freedom compared to what he's had for the last 6.5 years. First 2 weeks are 24/7 supervision, training on how to use public transportation, familiarizing with- community (nice up and coming area of the city - school is a hop, skip, and jump away from Wrigley Field). After that, it's based on his level and staff's feel for his capability. They've had frequent contact with Chicago PD and they've apparently been very helpful with- raging members. So we can hopefully avoid the courts for a few more years. Transport to hospital is standard MO. Staff will restrain if they think they can do it safely for all involved, otherwise 911. Only exception is drugs, which CPD will arrest for. Fine by me. Got several reassurances that drugs are *not* a rampant issue, although one member apparently enjoys his pot. I'm having to be laid back on this. thank you *will* come in contact with drugs. It's unrealistic to think he won't. Heck, he already has by his report at bad Residential Treatment Center (RTC). Random room searches are standard, as are UA's if staff feel it's warranted. We have 2 choices - TLP or home. Other TLP is not approved for state funding (which is a big red flag in and of itself since the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) associated with- that TLP is). Home isn't an option, yet. This is *very* hard. I just don't know if he's ready. LOL, he just called and after about a minute staff told him he needs to go to group and his response was "I don't have those issues". I told him, quickly, that this is exactly what I'm worried about. He *has* to do what he's supposed to do without attitude in order for this new placement to work. It's a ton of responsibility and accountability (comparatively speaking) and ... I just don't know if he's there yet. I just know that he's not needing the level of care at current Residential Treatment Center (RTC) anymore. So... I'm calling his therapist tomorrow to get her take, because I'm just too doggone close. It feels in a way like I'm having to let go a bit, which I *know* I'm supposed to be doing but... good gravy, it's hard. I went skeptical today. I don't want to accept a choice because it's our only one. I was pleasantly surprised on all counts. I also had a bit of a moment... group home is blocks away from his first Residential Treatment Center (RTC), which I went and looked at 7 years ago, almost to the day. While it wasn't snowing today like it was 7 years ago, it was wickedly cold and very deja-vu-ish. If this is the next placement, we have come full circle, geographically speaking. I don't know. It's time to let him try. It's hard to balance letting him try and ... knowing if we're setting him up for failure. I think if he came home, we'd be doing the latter. We've done that, twice. I want so *badly* for him to be able to function, to succeed, to be happy.