Janna
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For those of you that have children that simply cannot let things go, I'm wondering what you do when the Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) type thoughts drive you batty.
Part of my problem is, with D, he worries and obsesses over things that are trivial (to most of us, anyway), but the things that are severe (again, to most of us) are miniscule to him.
For example, this morning he couldn't find the bag of (intentionally hidden) cheese curls he saw out last night. SO had the bag, watching TV, last night, and probably ate 50% of it (he's not on MY diet LOLOL). D came down, cereal on the table, medications, drink - folder out for school, typical routine. Didn't even see those things today, went straight for the counter. No cheese curls.
"OMG where are they? Did SO eat them all? What a HIPPOCRYTE for telling ME I can only eat 13 of them (that's the serving size) and he eats the whole bag. He's going to have a heart attack eating all that food. And he's fat (D is 155 lbs LOL okayyyyyyyyy)! Where did they go? He cannot eat all them. That is so not fair!!!!!"
He's routing. Routing and routing, through cabinets, going nutso. I know where they are. I'm the one that put them away. It's not just this - though, it's everything. What J's doing. What B's doing. The "rant" can go on for an excess of an hour, days depending on what it is. I show him the bag, explain to him SO is the one that buys the groceries, and he has the right to eat the entire bag if he wants. He doesn't hear me, or he doesn't care. Life isn't fair, kid - that's what I want to tell him. Tough sh*t, deal with it and move on.
therapist suggested giving him a timer. "Ok, D, you have 5 minutes to talk about this"....and then it's to be let go. But, when the timer goes off ..."therapist is a retard. Why does she have to make rules? This isn't her house. I don't have to listen to her. This is babyish, I can talk all I want".
It's driving us insane, and honestly, I don't know if there's a medication for this, whatever "this" is. I'm sure it's partly anxiety driven, but the Buspar doesn't touch it. I'm told, by therapist, alot of his thinking is very Aspie, but does that mean he can't be taught to let it go? I mean, whatever diagnosis this is part of, whatever this is - it's insane.
Anyone else have this issue and find solution to easing it?
Part of my problem is, with D, he worries and obsesses over things that are trivial (to most of us, anyway), but the things that are severe (again, to most of us) are miniscule to him.
For example, this morning he couldn't find the bag of (intentionally hidden) cheese curls he saw out last night. SO had the bag, watching TV, last night, and probably ate 50% of it (he's not on MY diet LOLOL). D came down, cereal on the table, medications, drink - folder out for school, typical routine. Didn't even see those things today, went straight for the counter. No cheese curls.
"OMG where are they? Did SO eat them all? What a HIPPOCRYTE for telling ME I can only eat 13 of them (that's the serving size) and he eats the whole bag. He's going to have a heart attack eating all that food. And he's fat (D is 155 lbs LOL okayyyyyyyyy)! Where did they go? He cannot eat all them. That is so not fair!!!!!"
He's routing. Routing and routing, through cabinets, going nutso. I know where they are. I'm the one that put them away. It's not just this - though, it's everything. What J's doing. What B's doing. The "rant" can go on for an excess of an hour, days depending on what it is. I show him the bag, explain to him SO is the one that buys the groceries, and he has the right to eat the entire bag if he wants. He doesn't hear me, or he doesn't care. Life isn't fair, kid - that's what I want to tell him. Tough sh*t, deal with it and move on.
therapist suggested giving him a timer. "Ok, D, you have 5 minutes to talk about this"....and then it's to be let go. But, when the timer goes off ..."therapist is a retard. Why does she have to make rules? This isn't her house. I don't have to listen to her. This is babyish, I can talk all I want".
It's driving us insane, and honestly, I don't know if there's a medication for this, whatever "this" is. I'm sure it's partly anxiety driven, but the Buspar doesn't touch it. I'm told, by therapist, alot of his thinking is very Aspie, but does that mean he can't be taught to let it go? I mean, whatever diagnosis this is part of, whatever this is - it's insane.
Anyone else have this issue and find solution to easing it?