making headway?

Discussion in 'Parent Emeritus' started by realangel, May 10, 2007.

  1. realangel

    realangel New Member

    We have our new SW visiting us tomorrow :smile:

    I spoke to him briefly on the phone last week. he told me they are going to take difficult child out of foster care and place him in supported lodgings which difficult child is happy about.

    The only problem now is getting through to SW how dangerous difficult child still is to us. He said that he will be allowed to stay out 2 nights a week (wherever he stays will be checked out first) and that one of those nights he should stay with us, (their way of 'weaning' him back home?). I told him that couldn't happen and explained about the assaults etc. SW then started saying that if difficult child is a danger then they wont be able to find him a placement :rolleyes:

    What i need to get through to the SW is that difficult child is only dangerous with people he knows and 'cares' for. E.G. Me, SO, Siblings and one particular teacher at school. How can i make him see this?

    I have the photo's of the weapons he used so will show these to SW tomorrow. I just pray he listens to us.

    We are unable to get an advocate for us as at the moment there isn't one in our area!!

    I am in the process of obtaining copies of our witness statements and his interview tape from the police but they have said it can take up to 40 days.
  2. Sunlight

    Sunlight Active Member

    aw Lisa I hope it works out better than you can imagine. you are trying so hard. you deserve some good news.
  3. Suz

    Suz (the future) MRS. GERE

    Good luck, Lisa. I hope the SW accepts your refusal to allow difficult child home. It's ridiculous that they think it's even a possibility.

  4. realangel

    realangel New Member

    difficult child is being placed into supported lodgings :bravo:

    He has an appointment with the people next week and if all parties are happy he moves in the following week :bravo:

    SW said he understands that difficult child CANNOT come home for the foreseeable future and that when the carers feel he is ready he will move into either his own flat or a flat with warden presence.

    Its just SOOOOOOOOOOO nice to know what is happening and not feel under pressure from SW

    I shall kick back and relax tonight :smile: and wait for them to ring me next friday.
  5. Suz

    Suz (the future) MRS. GERE

    What wonderful resolution, Lisa. I'm just delighted for you...and your son. :bravo:

  6. SunnyFlorida

    SunnyFlorida Active Member

    Sounds like SW did not have the "full picture" of what had transpired in the past.

    Glad to hear that difficult child is being "supported".
  7. KFld

    KFld New Member

    Well it seems like all is working out. I'm happy for all of you. Now you can relax and enjoy your mothers day!!
  8. realangel

    realangel New Member

    Mothers Day was in March here in the UK .. hope you enjoyed yours?
  9. Jen

    Jen New Member

    Really, I never knew that. Well Happy Mothers day a second