DammitJanet
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This has nothing to do with my having meningitis three years ago. I will show you why I am somewhat confused.
If it "wasnt a big deal" then why were you so interested in it.
My point is that you post something to get us to respond, see what we will say and then at the end, you will just say, "oh, well okay, that was interesting but it wasnt a big deal, I was just curious." I actually do normally spend a lot of time responding to people because I want them to get the help they need. Thats why I have been here for 13 years. There have been times that I have researched things for people for hours and hours on end. Days even.
But dont worry, I wont be aggravating myself with your posts anymore. I hope you and your son do get along well. I think he is a beautiful little boy who is going to be perfectly fine. Good luck.
Jacobwas given sweets and an ice-cream to eat by someone today. This afternoon and evening he has been manically hyper - the way he is usually but doubled. Running furiously, manically, up and down, in circles, outside. Wild and excited. Lunatic... actually, come to think of it, it is the full moon, isn't it?? Could it be... Or is it the sweet stuff again?
I am confused. You asked. We gave you information and advice and you said it couldnt be what we suggested. You do this a lot.It's not sugar. He eats sugar in some form every day. When I shop, I look at the ingredients list and don't buy anything with additives. I never buy him sweets (candy) but sometimes he has chocolate or an ice-cream - never seen this before with ice-cream.
Jacob raised a good point this morning. He said (a propos of nothing) "Mummy, it's not good to kill." "No," I replied, "It's not good. If you kill, you feel sad afterwards." He thought for a moment and then said, "But what if you are a giant who kills children?"
A good question. What do you think?
Again, point?Ah well, you are none of you such subtle philosophers as my son.... His question was not about whether it is wrong for giants to kill children (but of course) but whether, my having said it was wrong to kill, whether it was wrong to kill a giant who was going to kill children (thereby saving their lives)... you see?!
This afternoon I went to a little show that the kids from J's activity centre put on - very sweet and J performed his (very small) part to perfection, I thought
It is raining heavily here and I grabbed J's new umbrella to get to and from the car and into the building. When he saw it, after the show, he wanted to play with it inside "to do magic," he said (lots of the show was based on magic routines). I obviously refused as it could be dangerous and hurt someone. So then... J started crying in this really distressed-seeming way and various people, big and small, started coming up looking very concerned, asking "What's wrong, J?" One teacher looked really worried and quizzed me about why he was crying like this... I'm afraid I felt very cynical, as if it was all just an (unconscious, obviously) bid to get what he wanted in quite a manipulative way.
Am I being hard hearted?? I really didn't feel nearly as sorry for him as the others did...
Yes, I see... though all the other kids would have had this mild high, wouldn't they? Anyway, it wasn't a big deal - I was just "interested" in it because of this manipulative theme. Just another day... I could also be manipulative as a child. I remember when I was about eight, some older children being nasty to me. I suddenly blurted out that my father had just died (not true, needless to say).
If it "wasnt a big deal" then why were you so interested in it.
It's pretty clear to me that my son has dysgraphia - at least; he could well have other "dys" that have not yet been revealed because of his age. He does not read or write at all yet (they teach reading/writing very slowly in France, which I personally think is wise) but has for some time written his first name in "joined up writing". It is always the same - huge, irregularly sized letters that slope up or down and with big spaces between the individual letters. Of course he is very young so it is difficult to talk about this as though it is something that may not change but seems clear that it indicates a difficulty with forming letters in the standard way. He does also have some fine motor skills problems (not gross ones) - cannot tie shoelaces, finds buttons difficult, which I presume is related.
Anyway, I have just been reading about ADHD and all the attendant learning disabilities that go with it so picked out another problem to start worrying about
My point is that you post something to get us to respond, see what we will say and then at the end, you will just say, "oh, well okay, that was interesting but it wasnt a big deal, I was just curious." I actually do normally spend a lot of time responding to people because I want them to get the help they need. Thats why I have been here for 13 years. There have been times that I have researched things for people for hours and hours on end. Days even.
But dont worry, I wont be aggravating myself with your posts anymore. I hope you and your son do get along well. I think he is a beautiful little boy who is going to be perfectly fine. Good luck.