Hi there, I am not holding my son accountable for my failing marriage by all means. I will say that I have found parenting very difficult (emotionally/physically draining). I am sure many of us here never dreamed this would be what having kids would amount to. What I never dreamed was that I would have such a husband turn into such a bad person and non involved father (for the most part), after having children. I don't know what happened to him. I never would have dreamed he would basicially let me do this really hard hard job on my own. Have any of your marriages changed (NOT FOR THE GOOD), after having your challenged child/children? Have they let you down? I would be curious to know if your marriage ended, is strained in part due to parenting (OR LACK OF)? Am I making any sense here with my questioning? Thank you. p.s. I DO LOVE MY CHILD DESPITE HOW HARD MY LIFE IS. I WILL AND DO EVERYTHING FOR HIM. HE IS MY LIFE. MY CHILDREN ARE MY LIFE!