So, difficult child got grounded yesterday for being disrespectful, not doing what I told her, and calling me names like retard. etc We weren't even 2 days into the consequences which means no friends, no computer, only earned television and extra chores. This morning I came home from work. I sat down in front of the computer to blog. A few minutes later difficult child awakes grumpy. Her and I start to look at some things on a site together. We laugh and talk and have fun, just the two of us. I figured it was good for her to bond time without easy child around. I turned the computer off, and was getting ready to sleep, when difficult child started trying to bargain her way out of her grounding. "what am I going to do all day?" she whines.... ME: "well you need to think about why you are grounded. It's not my job to entertain you" HER: (revving up now) she's pacing getting Mad! It's your fault i'm grounded, she announces. ME: No it's your being disrespectful etc..... HER: Well, what am I supposed to do all day? (she often talks in circles like this) I'm gonna be bored...whine whine. By this point she's raising her voice, another of her intimidation tactics. the louder she talks the more I whisper. I realize that it can be done, on my part and I'm happy to have control of myself in this way. After telling me she hates me and slamming her door. I go to her and explain that mommy is dead tired from nightshift and that she will not keep me awake with her whining and fits. I go to my room and not even finished washing up yet when she barges in BAMS on my bathroom door and demands to know where MY eyelash comb is, to comb her eyelashes which are covered with MY mascara, that I told her NOT to put on! (I mean really) She's yelling. waking up easy child. I tell her to get out of my room. Next minute she barges in again, waking up easy child, "I told you, (easy child) never to draw on my dry erase board! You're in trouble if I catch you doing it again I'm gonna slap you!" At this point I am boiling mad but I don't lose it. I go to her room and explain to her that if she bothers me again for any reason, she will be dealt with. and that she is to stay in her room all day. PERIOD. Well, isolation is what sets difficult child off the most. I no sooner laid down again than I hear this big BAM! against my door. She's screaming now, "I hate you, you're mean and ugly and stupid, and I hate you!" I go into her room and smack her twice. She knows I am boiling over but is acting like i just stabbed and shot her. Screaming out of control now. I threaten to call the sherriff on her if shes not willing to calm down. NOW instead of staying just in her room, I make her lie in the bed. I told her that if she bothers me again, I am going to have her azz! I lay down next to easy child and soothe her by stroking her hair. difficult child is still raging on and on. Crying, screaming, telling me I hate you and I'm so mean etc. I let her cry it out. I tell easy child not to get up for a few minutes, her sister needs alone time. Eventually she calms down. I got to sleep all of 2 hours before difficult child awakens me. Her friend is in the house, and has been in the house while I am sleeping!!! AGAIN. Something I told difficult child over and over again NOOOOOOOO!!!. ? am I gonna go crazy before I can deal with my child's behavior? Is the raging and all that part of ODD or just her manipulating me again.