My son is 45 years old. He has been using alcohol and drugs since he was 18 years old. He has never really stopped and last year he became legally blind from drinking something. He came very close to dying. Now he lives in the home of my wife and I. He has gone as long as 3 months sober usually drinks every month. It is taxing on me especially my wife. We believe he will not make it if we send him on his way. His pattern has been self destruction and now he is blind and has difficulty functioning. He really needs to be in a care home but he refuses to go. I don't want him to die but I also don't want it to burden my wife as we are getting older. Plus we try to find detox and either he walks away or he is unwanted. When he drinks he is like an 90 year old man for days. We have to clean up ****, some watch him for days and he is often grumpy and hard to handle. He causes problems with my other children, pushes buttons, and manipulates things to get his own way. We have taken his money away and now he says we are taking advantage of him. He is bipolar and he says we are penalizing him for having an illness. What should we do?