Hello, I live in NJ (Princeton area) and I have some series issues with my 16 year older son(difficult child) . He has developed ODD, very defiant, experimenting with drugs, not going to school, very disrespectful etc. He is extremely harsh on me and to a lesser extent with my wife. I also have a 11 year old boy (easy child) and no harm to him physically but he is seeing what his brother is doing and emotionally very upset. We have called cops few times when things escalated and my difficult child is not perturbed at all. He gets even more angrier with me. At this time my main concern is that my difficult child is treated for drugs as well as calmed down as he is going way out of control and pretty much ruining the home keeping us hostage. My wife doesn't want to call cops to take him to a treatment center and he will not come voluntarily. She is going through mental breakdown and cannot think rationally. Check mate. Are there any organizations (other than police) that would force him to take my son for treatment? does anybody know about DYFAS. I am considering contacting NJ child welfare officials for help with difficult child before he becomes a problem with my easy child. I am concerned about calling them as they may think that my easy child is at risk and may take him away. I want to do the following 1. Get some medication for my difficult child. He was prescribed Prozac but he stopped taking it after couple of weeks 2. Get tested and treated for drugs 3. Somehow make him go to school regularly (not sure how) 4. Make sure he doesn't go out on his will and do drugs etc and come back at odd hours 5. Look for a boarding school (therapeutic or military) and forcefully put him there (looks like this needs lot of education on my part) If somebody has a list of organizations/procedures/experience without going to the police, please do advice me through private message. Going crazy. Any support is very highly appreciated.