I am pitiful. What do I say when I tell him "no" and he wails "why won't you help me? I'm your only son!" (bio son - my easy child son is my step). What do I say when I tell him I love him and only wish the best for him however he needs to help HIMSELF and he replies "no you don't, if you did you'd help me". What do I say when he says "You have no idea what kind of stress I'm under!" When I really WANT to say "then get off your butt and solve YOUR problems!" I'm such a WIMP. SERIOUSLY! The thought of making things WORSE for him just kills me. How do I get the strength to do this? I sound like such a whiner!!! Have any of you been where I am and how are you now?