PART 1: As most of you know, in August we got Sammy his elmo bed. We have done as everyone suggested including the doctors, and not pressured him or anything into it. we let him lay in it whenever he wants or sit on it or whatever. The problem is that there is no progress with going into the bed. He wants nothing to do with it. Every once in a while he will sit on it and bounce around but he does not under any circumstance want to sleep in this bed. WHAT DO WE DO??? PART 2: Toilet training. Again, we are not pressuring him in any way with this one. He started going on the potty at school which was amazing now he wont even sit on the potty at school. We have gone backwards. My fear is that he will be almost 5 and still in diapers. I guess the overall theme here is that Sammy cannot handle change in any way. The Mayo clinic finally got all of our records so we will go there whenever we get an appointment. Our pediatrician is very happy we are going there because he has no idea what to do with Sammy as does anyone else here. He should be able to play the game Candy land but I dont think he will. He doesnt really play with anything. He plays with his trains but attatches them all and drives them around the table in a big circle for hours. He doesnt build the track or anything. At gymnastics he goes to the opposite side of the room than the rest of the class. He prefers to be apart from them although with kids one on one he will play just not in a group. He goes to school and will only play with one child. (Not saying this is bad but it is a point.) We are in a playgroup (mostly for me to make friends) and they are very understanding and kind to how Sammy is. Whenever we go, I am pretty much in isolation because Sammy wont go near anyone else or he is screaming and tantruming so we leave... I really feel lost and am not sure what to do anymore. Our neurologist didnt give us any helpful hints on what to do about any of this he just kind of made jokes so that doesnt really help us out at all! ANy advice on what we should do? Any good toys to get him focused on an activity....HELP!