Shortly after school started here, easy child 2 came telling us that her mom had told her that she would be sending us the dates that easy child 2 needed to be at footbal games to play with the band. easy child 2 said it was required, it was part of her grade, and her mom told her we HAD to take her or make other arrangements with mom to get her there. *** easy child 2 is in 6t grade. She physically attends the school in the junior high building, but is not really considered in junior high yet. *** She called last night and gave us the dates. All the dates she gave us happened to fall on the weekends she is with us, so I went to the school website to see if there were more home games for junior high that she'd be playing in, even if it wasn't our weekend to have her, we'd still go watch. *** I found that junior high games happen on Tuesdays, not Fridays, and the Fridays she gave me were for Varsity home games that started at 7:30 (she claimed she had to be there at 530). Tthen I thought it was odd that 6th graders would be reuired to attend high school football games instead of Jr High ones, so I called the band director. *** She's not required to attend any football games for band. In addition, a form was sent home at the beginning of the year that her mom signed that had the schedule on it, and very clearly said 6th grade wa not required to attend football games for band. *** We can come up with 3 scenarios why this happened - A) easy child 2 lied to get to go to the football games (entirely possible - her mom won't let her do ANYTHING - literally), B) easy child 2 truly doesn't undertstand (also possible), or C) easy child 2's mom figured this was a way to control what easy child 2 did on 3 of our weekends (yes, she'd do that, in a heartbeat). *** We have a wedding this weekend - rehearsal Friday, wedding Saturday. We had planned to split up Friday night, husband taking easy child 2 to the game, and I attending rehearsal - however, we can't see anything good coming from taking easy child 2 to these games based on all this bull we've been fed. If she didn't understand and we take her, well...that's the best case scenario, but she still plays dumb to get away with things on purpose as it is - she doesn't need more validation that it works. If she lied to get to go, that's obvious. If her mom lied, well, again, obvious. *** We are more than glad to tae easy child to activities. In fact, I had already planned to take her to some games this year, but this really chills my enthusiasm. *** Anyway, husband decided that easy child is not going to the game this Friday, given all this info. So since we don't "get" easy child unti 6, and she said she had to be there at 530, we have to coordinate with her mom. This is the email I wrote up. Can anyone find this at all offensive? (this woman is evil, remember) *** It would be so nice to be able to call mom up and talk about this, but that isn't an option. Its highly likely this woman is behind this whole scheme. *** Anyway, here it is. "DEX, Hi. I though it was off that6th graders were required to attend high school football games so I did som checking and found out that they are not required to attend any football games and their attendance in no way affects their band grade. They are only required to attend the winter and spring concert. Just FYI in case you were not aware of this. Anyway, reason for all this, we have a wedding this weekend and are not going to the game (had it been required, we were planning on making i wrk so easy child woud be there). So we will plan on picking easy child up at regular time at your house on Friday."