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difficult child has begun shoplifting certain kinds of objects lately and I'm not sure what to do about it. First he started a collection of "cool"-looking disposable cigarette lighters. When I found them (he hid them so he knew it was wrong afterwards), I reminded him it was stealing and that he could go to juvie for it and there would be nothing I could do. He cried hysterically and said he didn't know why he took them except they were cool-looking ones he'd never seen before. I told him that if he did this again, I would make him take them back and apologize and he'd have to deal with the consequences.
Last night, I saw that he had 2 new interesting looking fingernail clippers. I've never seen any like them before. It turns out he "took them because they were cool-looking". I told him I was gong to take him to the store so he could return them and apologize. His anxiety went through the roof. He cried hysterically and was shaking and got to where it was hard for him to breathe (not from the crying). He kept begging me not to make him do that because he was too ashamed (his words). He came up with the "solution" of taking them to the store and pretend to pick them up and use his own money (what little he has) to pay for them. I told him that I didn't trust that solution to stop him from doing it again. This was all very painful for me to watch.
I am stuck as to what to do. I have let it go for now so I could get some advice from you wise ones. I know it's the fascination with the objects that compels him to do it. He knows it's wrong but can't seem to help himself in the moment. He's there with his friends (who are buying candy) when he does this and he swears they have no idea he's done this. What should I do?
Last night, I saw that he had 2 new interesting looking fingernail clippers. I've never seen any like them before. It turns out he "took them because they were cool-looking". I told him I was gong to take him to the store so he could return them and apologize. His anxiety went through the roof. He cried hysterically and was shaking and got to where it was hard for him to breathe (not from the crying). He kept begging me not to make him do that because he was too ashamed (his words). He came up with the "solution" of taking them to the store and pretend to pick them up and use his own money (what little he has) to pay for them. I told him that I didn't trust that solution to stop him from doing it again. This was all very painful for me to watch.
I am stuck as to what to do. I have let it go for now so I could get some advice from you wise ones. I know it's the fascination with the objects that compels him to do it. He knows it's wrong but can't seem to help himself in the moment. He's there with his friends (who are buying candy) when he does this and he swears they have no idea he's done this. What should I do?