My 12 year old stepdaughter came to live with us when she was 9 years old. The state took her away from her mom because of domestic violence and drugs. We now have permanent and legal custody of her. The last year and a half has been pure hell for us, especially me. Her dad works on the road and is only home on the weekends and sometimes only once a month so a lot of her behavior falls on me. She stated stealing and when we asked her about it she will lie to us. We decided to have charges filed on her to see if this might help get her in line (she stole from her dad on 3 different occasions). She was put on probation and only stayed on it for about a month and was kicked off because she would not follow the rules of her probation. We went before a judge and again she was put on probation and kicked off. We have had to have the police to our house on many, many occasions because she is uncontrollable. When she gets caught doing something she isn't suppose to she will literally scream for hours. The last time the judge called in a psychiatrist for an extensive evaluation. She as diagnosed with ADHD, Conduct Disorder (but which one she had was not said). We have taken her to 2 different psychiatrist and one said she was depressed and the other with the ADHD and conduct disorder. She no longer goes to see either psychiatrist because she does not want to talk to them about her problems and refuses to. When she does, she admits that she lies to them. She has no remorse for anything she does and her behavior is getting worse and bolder. She gets up in the middle of the night and melts things on her light bulb in her lamp and we are afraid she is going to start a fire. She is still stealing and has even put a stuffed animal in our mailbox (which we knew was her's to begin with) and said that someone left it for her and she was scared that she had a stalker. She finally admitted that she did it but does not know why. She never gives a reason why she does anything. She just says "I don't know". Her teachers are even having problems in school. Please, any advice anyone can gives us will be appreciated.