Hi, I found this site through Google and am hoping I can find support here through other Warrior Parents who have been there. My husband and I adopted 2 children (girl 9, and boy 8) from Poland 2 years ago. It was hard from the start but we went ahead with it anyway. Our son would be our difficult child as you say. Our daughter is not a easy child however. She has her issues, but they are so much more subtle. difficult child gets violent. He does not handle anger well. He does not take responsibility. He keeps waiting for the world to change so he won't have a reason to be angry rather than working on his anger. He can be sweet and caring and helpful. He's more generous than his sister, but once he starts acting up, he gets defiant, snarky, mean, and then physical (destructive to things or violent to people. He has threatened kids at school, pulled hair of a kid in Sunday school (kid punched him back), and we've called the cops on him 3 times. He seems to lose all control but we can tell that he's ccognitive through the whole thing. Therapist saw it when he acted up at her office (even to the point of throwing rocks at us) and I have several incidents of evidence that prove he can think when he's "out of control." I feel like he holds on to anger like it's his pride and it will get him what he wants...someday. It has only made things worse. They did come from a violent birthfamily and spent 4 years in an orphannage. Both have low self esteem and yet can be quite arrogant. They rarely get along when together. difficult child has made some progress. He doesn't fight 3 times a day anymore. He is likely dealing with PTSD and some measure of Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD). ADHD is also a possibility. We have just recently tried some medication. Jury is still out on that. It's been rough on both husband and I, but I tend to carry stress more. I was suprised to suffer from Post Adoption Depression. It ahs many layers but the two main layers are my difficult child and money. This last week I found that my son was maxed out on health insurance. So therapy is now very difficult. No new insurance until April. Likewise for me and my depression. I'm nearly maxed. So I'm looking for alternative ways to get some support.