I have a 12 year old daughter who has a severe case of ODD. We were going to counseling, but I kept hearing from her that the counselor would say that she's disgusted with me and would refuse to speak to me or tell my daughter that I was wrong for various things. So, we quit therapy because honestly it wasn't helping anyway and I'll be damned if someone is going to fuel more disrespect in our home. We have so many issues, my daugher will not go to bed at night, get up in the morning, eat dinner, do her chores, do her homework, get in/out of the car, get off the computer, turn off the tv, etc without a battle. Her drama is so ridiculous at times I almost want to laugh. For instance today, she wanted to go to the library. I agreed to take her after she cleans her room. She cleaned her room and I made a big deal of it, telling her she did a great job! I said, okay before we go, please take these books upstairs to your room and then after that we can leave. Well, apparently 3 textbooks are too heavy for her at 12 years old cause she acted like I just asked her to carry a 2 ton boulder upstairs. Three school books. That's all. She sat on the steps, whining and moaning "Ooh, these are so heavy, I can't do it, ooooh, so heavy...." I told her "Take them upstairs without another word or else we won't go to the library" She continues "Oh, I can't carry these books, I can't do it, ooooh, ooooh" So I said "Okay, I gave you one more chance and you didn't do what I asked so we are not going to the library. This causes a major meltdown, including swearing at me, threatening suicide. My 4 year old and 2 year old are witnessing this outburst, so I told her to go to her room. She didn't. I have taken away all of her priveleges for the day, but I cannot understand what makes her behave this way? Why not just take the books upstairs and then go to the library? I didn't ask her to do anything difficult and most girls her age would just do it without much more than a groan or a "whatever" but she makes an issue out of everything. EVERYTHING. I can't take much more. I just can't. To make it worse everyone thinks it's all my fault and I swear it's not.