hi I am new to this forum, but not to difficult children. My oldest daughter was diagnosed Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) and treated. She sees a psychiatrist and takes Abilify and adderall, However she never really got a diagnosis for her concurrent conditions. She is 18 now but still in high school and I am having a real problem dealing with her explosive temper, mood swings, lieing, stealing, hoarding, poor hygiene and verbal abuse. 2nd child, ds is 14, he was failure to thrive and pervasive developmental disorder with ADHD. He takes Abilify and Vyvanse. He is very defiant and has trouble at school because he won't do the homework. He does seem to be learning the material because he gets good grades on his tests, but he loses points for missing assignments, so is failing. He does have an IEP and seemingly good Learning Disability (LD) teachers. He has an explosive temper and has hit me and kicked me on several occasions when I tried to discipline him. He is bigger and stronger than I am. husband has a heart condition so i don't tell him about the violence because he tries to muscle the boy into behaving and gets so worked up that I fear he will have another heart attack. Plus, husband works out of state and so i am basically a single parent. daughter #3 is 13 and so far a normal child. I worry about the effect growing up in such a dysfunctional household can have. Plus, I turn to her for comfort when my other kids have been abusive and I know that is not a healthy thing for her; she needs me to be an adult and I am so PTSD I can barely function. I hope to find some answers here. I work part time for an orthodontist.