Hello. I am sitting here alone and worried and frightened. I have read many of your postings and it makes me realize I am not alone but there are no magic answers or solutions. My son is almost 21 and currently lives at home. He has unipolar depression or could be put on the bipolar II spectrum if you know about that. In 2009 we had to hospitalize him three times and after 10 ECT treatments and many changes in medicine, three years later he is doing well. The problem is I learned about six months ago he has been smoking pot daily for the past year and half now and doesn't think there's anything wrong with it. He's in school for the second time. Flunked out fall 2010 so brought home and he went to community college and living at home and so this is the second and last time I pay for it. It still doesn't look like he's serious about school so have probably thrown more money away but I want so badly to believe his intentions. We have told him if he has D's or below, we're done and that any future college was be his dime only. With his smoking pot his medications cant be working as good as they could be and now hes wanting to go off of the medications and just smoke pot, which scares me more than words can describe. Tomorrow we go to the psychiatrist where I will tell the dr. about the pot since he hasn't yet as I believe the dr. needs to know. I am so tired, weary, and cannot go back through the hell we went through in 2009. I would not wish that on my worst enemy. I have been told to go to an alanon meeting to learn how to take care of myself, so I guess that is the next step. I know this is a lot to put out here all at once. I want so badly to get through to him that smoking pot is harmful but I don't know how. I need help setting boundaries and learning tot take care of myself.