Okay, this may sound kind of strange, but I received two adult coloring books for Christmas and...I love them! They are billed as "calming, stress-relieving and meditative" for adults, and you know, I believe that is true. I was so excited to receive both of them! I truly felt like a kid again. More broadly, I do believe it's important to our recovery and our peace to constantly be on a search for tools to help us calm ourselves, settle our thinking, lower our blood pressure, minister to ourselves...in short, to do kind things for ourselves and to do things that we enjoy. I also bought a new puzzle that I'm going to set up on a card table (so I can take forever to do it! lol), I got a new daily devotional book by Richard Rohr and I am working to up my exercise to five days a week. These may be small, daily things, but I believe they are the pathway to changing the focus to US, instead of them, and letting other people go to live their lives as they wish. My parents are aging (badly) and my brother is an active alcoholic, and I just visited them in Oklahoma for three days between Christmas and New Year's. The visit went great, even though everywhere you look in their home, their is stress, anxiety, dysfunction. I was able to let it all go, enjoy them, and whatever stresses I felt I let roll off my back. We can't fix other people. We can't fix anybody but ourselves, and that is a full time job. May we all continue to seek the tools we need to focus on US! Happy New Year to all of you Warrior Parents! You are the best.