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This would seem like a no brainer - if it wasn't high school and if I wasn't worried about my daughter being singled out (more).
difficult child's style is kind of a mixture between goth/emo/scene. Skinny jeans, a lot of black or dark colors, black hair and a lot of black eye makeup. She knows people are going to think what they think and that doesn't bother her. However, there is a difference between that and being singled out. By a teacher. I should mention - I don't know if it matters - that this teacher is also the Head Football Coach. He has also made positive comments to my daughter, so I don't think he has malicious intent; maybe just not well thought out.
On the first day of school, difficult child was not on his schedule so she had to show him her schedule and a boy laughed and made a comment about her clothes. She mentioned that to me, then nothing else.
Then, a few weeks later she told me that when she gave an oral presentation in that class (this is social studies, by the way), that after her presentation the teacher asked her to close her eyes again (eye makeup all black). I can't remember what he said, but he made some comment about it. And this was while she was standing in front of the entire class. With her anxiety and stutter it's hard enough for her to be up in front of the class as it is.
Most recently (she just told me today) on Thursday, he was talking to the student teacher about how difficult child seemed to be the only one really interested in the video they played. Then the teacher made a comment about her eye makeup, again, and the entire class got involved...laughing and asking her why she doesn't wear other colors.
I don't know what he's thinking. Maybe since she singles herself out with her appearance that she wouldn't mind? There is a huge difference in not caring what people think, and being singled out in front of the entire class and having to hear comments and snickers.
I'm thinking of scheduling a meeting with him. I need to get insight on how she does in class, as well, as she doesn't seem to be doing in-class assignments in any class and we have an IEP meeting coming up. I don't want to be adversarial. Just discuss it with him.
What would you do?
difficult child's style is kind of a mixture between goth/emo/scene. Skinny jeans, a lot of black or dark colors, black hair and a lot of black eye makeup. She knows people are going to think what they think and that doesn't bother her. However, there is a difference between that and being singled out. By a teacher. I should mention - I don't know if it matters - that this teacher is also the Head Football Coach. He has also made positive comments to my daughter, so I don't think he has malicious intent; maybe just not well thought out.
On the first day of school, difficult child was not on his schedule so she had to show him her schedule and a boy laughed and made a comment about her clothes. She mentioned that to me, then nothing else.
Then, a few weeks later she told me that when she gave an oral presentation in that class (this is social studies, by the way), that after her presentation the teacher asked her to close her eyes again (eye makeup all black). I can't remember what he said, but he made some comment about it. And this was while she was standing in front of the entire class. With her anxiety and stutter it's hard enough for her to be up in front of the class as it is.
Most recently (she just told me today) on Thursday, he was talking to the student teacher about how difficult child seemed to be the only one really interested in the video they played. Then the teacher made a comment about her eye makeup, again, and the entire class got involved...laughing and asking her why she doesn't wear other colors.
I don't know what he's thinking. Maybe since she singles herself out with her appearance that she wouldn't mind? There is a huge difference in not caring what people think, and being singled out in front of the entire class and having to hear comments and snickers.
I'm thinking of scheduling a meeting with him. I need to get insight on how she does in class, as well, as she doesn't seem to be doing in-class assignments in any class and we have an IEP meeting coming up. I don't want to be adversarial. Just discuss it with him.
What would you do?