Im the inlaw of a Odd/adhd/Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) 14 year old boy he is the most defiant little kid I have ever seen he does what he wants when he wants because his mom defends him even from his own father. He cant be disciplined by his dad because his mom says he has a mental disorder. He cusses at his dad when he tells him to do something but instead of him getting in trouble his dad does for telling him something . He makes up lies saying we tell him things but in reality he is the one that starts it. We cant eat dinner in peace because he starts making fun of someone and when they say something back they get in trouble even if his mom is right their watching. I honestly dont know what to do because its getting to a point where it affects not only himself but me and my husband with his lies . He thinks he is a gangster he dresses like one talks like one but acts so childish . He recently got in trouble for selling asprin is school and had to get on probation but his mom still doesnt discipline him. He knows no one can tell him anything because of his mom how can I get her to realize she is doing wrong by letting him get away with everything.. Im getting to that point where I want to back hand him but I know its wrong and it will only makes things worse . Im really desperate and dont know what to do please help.!