The outside agency is coming in Thursday to do the observations and interviews for an F B A. How this is all going to give us great info in one day, I don't know, but... During Wee's last incident, principal walked up to him while he was struggling against the paras restraint, put her hands on his knees and said "STOP THAT RIGHT NOW!" and then more quietly said "come with me". (this is what I'm told. Its not in any reports.) Then I'm also told that he very quickly composed himself and went with her. While a far cry from the norm with him, it isn't unheard of with him. Particularly if the "new person on the scene" is perceived, by him, as a "safe person". At the time that this happened, Wee had a good rapport with principal, so that may have been what happened here. Wee is also a typical kid who's been taught by the district that this works to get him out of stuff. I'm not above thinking maybe he did try it out this time. But anyway, I'm not gonna get stuck on that arguement...the point the school must understand is that it has to be prevented before it gets to that level. Period and end of story. Anyway, so principal, in her infinite wisdom, has now decided Wee's not out of control when in these tantrums. We felt she did not buy his diagnoses in the beginning, but she has now verbalized this and take it to the super and the SRO. We also know she is blaming me for a good chunk of the problem. So, when this outside person comes Thursday, and I have to interview with her, I know she is going to be bombarded before I ever see her with this info. Am trying to decide what my best recourse is... I want her to talk to exMIL, too. Am thinking maybe it would be better to have that done seperately from me? I also thought about sending some emails and the incident reports to her in advance... I am frustrated and afraid that I won't be able to contain my frustration. The last thing I want to do is fit the description the principal is going to paint of me.