difficult child 2 saw the behavior therapist this morning. He was sick at the last appointment, so I updated her on recent events. I told her I didn't think the psychiatrist was willing to dismiss the possiblity of a Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) diagnosis, despite the neuropsyche report. She jumped in quite quickly and agreed, neither was she willing to dismiss it. The neuropsyche evaluation is very research based and very "in the box" oriented - she says difficult child can function "in the box", but if they saw him outside that clinic, she thinks even they would change their minds. She just sees too much. She, again, really wished we could get him into a social skills group. She feels he would benefit and greatly needs it. *** I am sick and tired of being bounced around between these people. The psychiatric and BT have ideas to try (social skills group, language therapy) that are not being tried because DevPed doesn't agree, and her office happens to be in the building where these services would be offered. I came a hair'd width from parking my butt in her waiting room this morning and demanding either a valid reason why we can't try it, or to try it. *** Better judgement stopped me, but I am placing calls now asking for written letters from BT, psyche, and the in-home, individually. I don't think I will have any trouble getting them. Then I plan to schedule an appointment with DevPed and give her the letters and say "let's talk". *** I'm dangling dangerously close to the frayed ends of my rope, and my son needs help. difficult child's bio dad lives in a barn besides his mom and dad's house. His mom and dad take care of him. He is employed right now, but he has not stayed at the same job for more than 5 months in the past 5 years. He's spent most of the time unemployed. He is on probation right now for felony assault charges - this is his 5th offense. *** difficult child 1 just came back on his leave. He's been in trouble in the military for alcohol already. He came back and married a girl he hasn't seen in 3 years. Initially he wanted more money when he got deployed. Then he thought she was preg with some other guy's kid. He lost his wallet and cell phone in the airport on the way cause he was smashed and beligerant going thru security and forgot them after he got searched. They got married and he slammed a 27 ounce double-alcohol margarita, then drove to his new wife's apartment, stopping by the liquor store on the way, in the middle if a crowd heading to a big-name concert in town, also, that night (aka LOTS O' POLICE). Open containers all the way. He forgot the marriage license when he left. *** I will not settle for "he'll grow out of this" and I guess I'm gettin' p*ssed, and maybe its time. *** So, any advice or suggestions appreciated. I won't go in guns a blazin', but I guess I am prepared to argue this matter at this point.