Some fathers/men are great with kids. I happened to have found one that stayed well clear of all things baby, until the kids got older. When he held one of the kids (which was rare and only when directed by me), you could see the anguish in him. Just wasn't for husband.Thank you Old-hand and Copabanana. I think I would've been much like my mother. Fine with her kids and grandkids (better with her grands), but other peoples' kids gave her hives.
husband, however, was a kid magnet. Friends and neighbors used to hand him fussing babies and toddlers and he could jolly them into giggles or soothe them to sleep within minutes.
Me? I just tend to treat them like little people, with an awareness of their developmental level, foibles and quirks, and try to work with what's going on in their heads. My usual gig is to find something to fascinate them with, which even works with infants. Those little brains are like sponges!
When the kids got older and more independent, husband climbed out of his shell. He took them everywhere, attended sports games, school functions, and all sorts of other things.I don't think men can get away with that today!!
My first husband would do diapers, changing, feeding etc. But after the kids get older, he grew bored. Didn't even go to their sports. He hated sport's. His lack of interest in the kids made me and his kids not happy with him.
This husband I am with now is Father of the Year and is sought out for activities even by adult daughter. He helped really make our family a lot of fun. He has always been extremely engaged in every facet of their lives.