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Hi! I haven't posted on this board in quite a while, so I thought I would re-introduce myself to everyone before I jumped back into the pool. My name is Pam and I have two boys, difficult child and easy child. difficult child is 12 and will be 13 in May. He's been diagnosed wtih anxiety and ODD. He's been taking risperdal since December of 2010 and this past August started taking Zoloft to help with this anxiety, which at times I would describe as crushing. He seemed to be doing really well, but things seemed to have leveled off a bit. The original theory was that if we could control the anxiety we would be able to control the tantrums and meltdowns. It hasn't really worked as well as I had hoped it would. He's still rude, nasty, dispespectful, and just plain mean to everyone in the house, but his favorite targets are me and his little brother.
easy child is 7 and he'll be 8 in March. This summer the therapist thought it would be a good idea to work with easy child, because difficult child was almost like a bully towards him. Well, maybe not "almost like". He is a bully towards easy child, so we spent a good part of the summer working with him to help him be stronger and stand for himself towards difficult child. It helped easy child a great deal, but it also sent GFGF into a tail spin. I think that he was angry that we worked to take away what he considered to be his easiest target.
I'm married to husband for 14 years. Unfortunately, he's not as invovled as I would like him to be. The problem with that is that everyone sees it but himself. He thinks he perfect dad. When he does step in it's only after things have escalated. He is trying to be more hands on, especially with difficult child and his behavioral problems, but sometimes he just looks as me with this deer in the headlights look on his face and says to me, "Oh, did you need help?"
Like I said at the beginning, I am looking to come back to the board for help, insight, ideas, and support and since it's been a while I thought I would just say hi first.
Pam
easy child is 7 and he'll be 8 in March. This summer the therapist thought it would be a good idea to work with easy child, because difficult child was almost like a bully towards him. Well, maybe not "almost like". He is a bully towards easy child, so we spent a good part of the summer working with him to help him be stronger and stand for himself towards difficult child. It helped easy child a great deal, but it also sent GFGF into a tail spin. I think that he was angry that we worked to take away what he considered to be his easiest target.
I'm married to husband for 14 years. Unfortunately, he's not as invovled as I would like him to be. The problem with that is that everyone sees it but himself. He thinks he perfect dad. When he does step in it's only after things have escalated. He is trying to be more hands on, especially with difficult child and his behavioral problems, but sometimes he just looks as me with this deer in the headlights look on his face and says to me, "Oh, did you need help?"
Like I said at the beginning, I am looking to come back to the board for help, insight, ideas, and support and since it's been a while I thought I would just say hi first.
Pam
