I am a single parent to two children. I am also chronically ill and have no family around. I work full time (no choice) and I’m in constant pain and constant fatigue. My daughter (11) has oppositional defiant disorder and severe anxiety. The issues began well before the divorce (she was 7 when we split - issues started years before). When she is with me she explodes over anything. She will scream for hours and hours. Talking doesn’t work. Ignoring doesn’t work. She will chase me and bang on doors. She is in therapy but refuses to talk. Every time she fights, she calls her father. He sometimes tells her to just stay away from me if she can’t stop yelling. She lies and says I’m the one following her. He has caught her in this lie a few times. But as soon as she stops screaming at him on the phone, she comes back screaming at me again. I lost my partner partially because he couldn’t handle being around her. I can’t make plans with friends because she isn’t willing to be around people and will explode. I worry so much for my son (9). I worry for me - I feel this stress is killing me. There seems to be no hope. The explosions happen 3-4 times a day and last a long time (usually only ending when she’s exhausted or I call mobile crisis to come help). She does these things with her father, but to a much lesser degree. She used to explode at school, but seemed to stop perhaps due to peer pressure. She is withdrawn and makes no friends. I’m scared for all of us. I can’t survive this.