The trouble is - when we take her to be evaluated she refuses to participate so they struggle to diagnose. I do see that she can’t handle change, can’t socialize well, and is very irritated by certain tastes or textures.Well, the Judge likely wont force ex to take her but he could. More likely he can force daughter to get treatment whether ex likes it or not. Judge has more power than what an ex wants, especially if the child is so sick. I would gather documentatuon from school and mental health professionals and present that in court. Do try to get a lawyer. Does daufhter have a GAL?
Your daughter needs help. Your son is fine. Neither child should be pulled from your actual custody. My friends retained custody of their son. He just lived in a residential treatment home. He did get to visit as did they him
Just a question. Has your daughter ever been tested for autustic soectrum disorder? Did she speak late, does she like repetition, does she rage at change, does she know how to socialize, does she have odd quirks like rocking or hand flapping, does she repeat what you say or what the television says, does she tend to be clumsy? Is she sensitive to noise, touch, feel, taste? Does she have a great rote memoey but abstract thinking confuses her?
If any of that rings true I would forget a psychiatrist for now and take her for a neuro psychological exam (this is a specialized psychologist, not a neurologist) and have a complete evaluation. My son had ten hours of testing. He is doing well at 25. He is on the spectrum and doing well on his own. You can find neuro psychologists at university hospitals and childrens hospitals.