husband and I actually got out for a night without the kids!!!! My mom babysat. It was her first time seeing the kids in a few weeks and her first time seeing Kanga for more than a few minutes in over a month. She commented that she was shocked by how blatant Kanga's intellectual disability has become as she has gotten older. That if she'd have closed her eyes, she would have sworn she was talking with my 6 year old niece -- the topics of conversation, the grammar, the word choice -- all just so horribly young. husband and I are slowly grasping that college is not in her future. We had seen flashes of it before, but always believed that we could help her to achieve and that she could go to college, not Ivy League, but a junior college at least. I think her Learning Disability (LD) may be just as big of a handicap as her mental illness. The problem is she is smart enough to know she is slow and mentally fragile enough to become depressed by it. On a good note, I needed to clean the house and I was able to get Kanga to help me all day! I lowered my expectations and kept each task small and she was able to help. That is my reality check. I think I need to admit that she is functionally retarded (even if her IQ is technically normal) and lower my expectations. This is hard.